Q:
My struggle is I that have this idea of a realistic
path of building a career and education, financial stability, family
and then after I will have the experience and wisdom, and understanding
of life's challenges, and then continue to set off and find myself.
OR... There is the option to go on the spiritual journey, be unique
and trust, without having the need to follow the path of society.
Presently,
for comfort and out of curiosity I choose the realistic
path, but I have this fear of getting trapped in a routine, a cycle
in a cage. I continue to fight, and I will not let myself get caught
so I try to maintain my spirituality through meeting souls like yours,
journalling, going outside, etc.
My question
relates to my generation which has not built their expertise and financial
security and needs to choose a direction. I understand only I will
have the answer to the path I need to choose but I would like to hear
your opinion. Once again thank you for your inspiration and your attitude
towards life, and thank you for sharing your stories. I am keen to
keep in touch and I know that one day our paths will cross again.
A:
Thanks for the lovely note and for sharing your story with me. Your
question is excellent, especially since you have addressed the same
question about life that I used to struggle with; Should one go on
the realistic path or the spiritual one?
Here's
what I learned on the Camino.
My realistic
path and my spiritual path are part of each other; a part of the same
thing like ying and yang. They are not two different courses and I
cannot separate them. Rather, they are elements of the whole life
journey.
If we consider
the physical manifestation of walking a journey, on the Camino I walked
20 to 40 kms each day through all kinds of weather and terrain. I
didn't wake up in the morning to find out it was going to rain all
day, and decide not to walk because of the weather. I walked every
day, rain or shine.
At the
same time I embraced the lessons and experiences of my spiritual journey;
through the intention of seeking an inner journey to finding self-love
and ultimately my higher purpose in life. The physical activity of
walking everyday became a state of being. In that state, I could find
my way physically, emotionally and spiritually to my purpose; to Santiago.
By the
time I reached Santiago I had figured out my higher purpose. Looking
back I now realize that I knew my purpose all along, it was just a
question of being able to see it. The mantra of walking everyday together
with defined rituals gave me the platform I needed to increase my
gradient level of awareness.
Now back
in the real world, my intention is to be my purpose in body, mind
and spirit without trying so hard. I act as a part of the natural
flow, not fighting my way. Through the sport of rowing I had finally
discovered that by fighting, I was causing more struggle in my life.
As a result I was using valuable energy on achieving nothing but proof
to myself that I was trying my hardest. The boat didn't go any faster.
My advice
to you is to be your purpose. To do this you must find a state of
being that allows you to become more aware and present. It could be
meditation, walking, yoga, swimming, rowing or anything that involves
the discipline of combining activity (mind or body) and surrender.
The Sufi's refer to this as mindfulness.
As you
become more aware, you will see your purpose. Once you see your purpose
you must continue to walk in a state of awareness of your mind, body
and spirit. Put one foot in front of the other until you reach your
Santiago. And always remember; When the Camino ends, the journey begins.
May you
find peace on your journey.
Buen Camino,
Q:
I was wondering about your knee, you stopped writing about it after
your miracle. Is this because you focussed on other details of your
journey to write about or did your knee start to feel better?
A: I
stopped writing about my knee in my diary and in the book. It was
as though it healed on its own and then it was a concern at all. Funny,
I wonder if I kept all my fear in my knee and once I had faced it,
there was no need to experience the pain of it. It wasn't intentional
to leave it out. It just happened that way.
Q: I've noticed
how you have a sort of glow about you. Not literally of course, but
you draw people in somehow. I wondered if it's just you because you
are a special person or is it all of us that have profound things
happen to us and we just don't allow ourselves to notice them. We
dismiss them because we're too busy to listen. I think your glow is
your spirit. It's awakened somehow and it shines.
A:
About the glow....I am not sure what happened to me on the Camino.
I was defiantly touched in some way and the end result of that still
has to unfold. I am different than before I left and there is no doubt
that people are drawn to me. I just accept it. I don't judge people
or the situation I am in. My compassion for all people has evolved
through awareness. I am so completely grateful for everything that
is in my life. Sometimes I wonder if it's all a dream.
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